How to use meditation for confidence. Do you suffer from lack of self-confidence? Learning to meditate can help you build your self-confidence levels up.
UPDATE MARCH 2013: I have recently released a detailed ebook about meditation which could certainly help you with self-confidence issues too – check out my book Anxiety Meditation now.
I recently started doing stand-up comedy as a hobby. Many people I know commented that I must have such strong levels of self-confidence to even consider such folly!
They are correct.
Despite my dubious comedic material, the reason I can go through with it (even though I still get very nervous before getting up on stage) is because I do actually have a lot of self-confidence and yes, a major reason I have this personality trait is due to meditation. I do a meditation for confidence before each gig, and it really helps.
Allow me to explain.
How Meditation For Confidence Works
It is a sad fact of life that as we grow from childhood to adulthood, we invariably go through various degrees of emotional trauma. This is true even for those of us with relatively stable upbringings; think about how horrible kids at school were to you sometimes. This stuff all takes it toll on our developing minds and to protect ourselves from unwanted emotional pain, we build up defensive emotional walls.
These defenses can manifest as aggressive or assertive personality traits – or they can manifest as low self-esteem. By adopting an image of yourself as a person who is not very confident, your ego feels safer knowing that you won’t volunteer to put yourself in the limelight (i.e. in danger of being criticized or mocked).
Now while this may (or may not) have helped you to cope throughout school and your adult life so far, you may be aware that in fact your lack of self-confidence is limiting your ability to shine, to enjoy living the full expression of your talents and abilities. And yes, it may be stopping you from showing them all (dammit) just how good you could be … if only you could find the guts to stand up and be counted.
Using Meditation To Over-Ride the Ego and Find Your Self-Confidence
When you learn how to do meditation for confidence, interesting things happen.
For starters, if all goes well, you will begin to relax.
And I mean really relax.
At this stage you will feel at peace, and forget about your problems, even if it is just for a little while as you meditate.
Then as you go deeper and deeper, you will begin to bypass the fearful “ego” part of your personality and begin to get in touch with that part of your being that is at peace, happy and free.
You may not believe that there is a part of you that is so carefree and happy – but believe me it is true. It’s just that you may have never bypassed your fearful, wounded mind enough to experience this level of contented awareness that lies at the core of us all.
I could write forever about this process, but in the context of this post, it is enough to say that if you have never meditated successfully enough to have felt this state of being, then it would be well worth your while to explore this phenomenon (by reading and more importantly, meditating) until you get in touch with what I am trying to describe.
When you reach this blissful stage of meditation, you begin to see things from a different perspective. You will begin to understand life from a universal perspective, your own life with all it’s troubles will not seem as urgent and all-encompassing, but rather you will see how small you really are in the grand scheme of things and how this is not something to fear but rather is just fine.
You are a tiny little speck in a vast, vast universe – and that’s ok with you. It’s how it should be.
Go even deeper and you will understand how in fact you are not just a speck – a separate part of the universe – but (woo-woo as it does sound) you are in fact ALL of the universe. Everything is One Thing and you are that One Thing and in a certain way (not the egoistic Christian way) you are in fact eternal.
Then your meditative thoughts may turn to your problems of self-confidence. And suddenly you will not feel so concerned about what people think of you anymore.
And when you are no longer meditating but are back in the “real world” facing your self-confidence issues, you will find that regular meditation for confidence will help you with “mind skills”, mental abilities (almost like mild super-powers) to over-ride your ingrained patterns of low self-confidence and rise above your low-self esteem.
Because if you are all of the Universe, and if everybody else that you know is One with you, then what is there to fear?
Fear has no place in your life.
It is a mirage.
Let it go.
Stand up tall, with confidence – and live your life to fullest!
If you’d like to learn more about meditation for confidence, then check out my book Anxiety Meditation now.